There is a point in every woman’s life where she realizes that enough is enough. I have reached that point too – or maybe I have even crossed another line, a line that makes me feel indifferent about things. Indifference because it has happened few times too often. From now on I will not lower my standards any longer – for no one.
Dear unknown – future boyfriend/husband,
I have serious doubts that there is something as a mister right on the planet earth. I seriously doubt that there is something like a serious man. If you think you are that one mister right, then I am afraid you will have to suffer and pay the deuces for all the lame boys that came before you and made me into a bitter woman. I have compromised too often, and this won’t happen again.
This is my bible; these are my “ten commandments”.
Thou shall love me for who I am – If you are only interested in physical appearance, you can better move on straight away. Few years ago I would be depressed when someone would dump me because I was too fat or too ugly, but I grew up. If a person does not want to be seen with me because of how I look, then that person is superficial and not worth the time. I am intelligent and have a bright future ahead of me; I am witty and funny, carrying and loving; if those things do not prevail physics, then I do not want to frequent you or even know you.
Thou shall never (ab)use me – Claiming to love someone just to get laid is not only the lowest thing you can come up with, it also shows your morals and respect. I’ve had people using me for their own pleasure but none of them had the balls to admit it. If you think you can be a big boy and have the right to use someone, then also have the guts to admit your actions and intentions. This also stands for abuse, whether this be emotional or physical abuse. Bringing someone down because of your own personal weakness is not tolerated; go get professional help.
Thou shall not stand in the way of my goals and future – I understand the importance of a degree and education, if you cannot accept the fact I have no time to spare during exam time or deadlines, then move on because I have no time to waste. I am not going to fail an exam or miss a deadline just to spend time with you because you cannot wait for one day to see me.
Thou shall have a degree or career – This commandment is related to the previous one. People who consider working in a factory stocking goods in trucks from 9 to 5, getting home and expecting food to be on the table and after finishing dinner, go “chill with the homies” while the wife cleans up, as a career, then I am sure we are not on the same level and that we will never have a successful relationship. I want a man that is career driven (degree or self-made man) and that is passionate about his career (career going from business to sports – as long as you understand that nothing comes for free and everything requires efforts and sacrifices.).
Thou shall respect me and see me as your equal – I am not the type of woman that obeys her man. Relationships are between equals and that is how I want to be treated. In relationships the principle of co-decision is applicable. This means that no one will ever tell me what I can or cannot do. I am not an obeying/submissive type of person and will never be one. If you are stuck in the old days when women used to stay home and be a slave to their man, you choose the wrong woman. Kindly move on.
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